There was a bit on there that had me laying in bed sighing....and not in the way that this makes me sigh.
Mr. Bentley's mom was on there and she was telling the newly "Gents" how kids spell love... TIME.
Isn't that OUTSTANDING?
Love to kids = TIME
Who knew this show could be so stinking RIGHT and informative. See yo? Don't judge a reality TV show by the network it's on (or something along those lines).
Right?
Kids just want our time...that's all they care about...they don't care about how many Webkinz they have or pairs of jeans they don't have or any of that...they only want our TIME.
Novel idea.
Going through the kids' rooms to declutter and prepare the house for viewing, I realized just how much STUFF my kids have...and I wonder, why I think they NEED all that stuff. It's ridiculous. Toys, clothes, so much of it all. It's not that necessary. Nice, yes, that I've been able to afford it and get them things that they want, but soooo not necessary.
This living in access is just exhausting. Makes me wonder, what am I trying to fulfill by GIVING so much? Do I feel like I am only loved for WHAT I have instead of WHAT I AM? Am I trying to show my kids love in the form of THINGS...cause that is not what I want to do...
TIME...that is something I do want to give them and I can give that without breaking the bank. I'm going to work on that.
Food for thought. Happy Wednesday.
5 Love Languages...good book! It tells you that giving things is not necessarily a bad thing...it's just how you speak love and it expounds on other forms. And how to recoginize someone else's love language...might help with kids too.
ReplyDeleteActually...I think he has a Love Languages for families...search for it on Amazon, I know I saw it there! :)
Don't you just love perspective though?
Yes! I need a good swift kick on this one too...work has been ridiculously busy so my time with them has been lacking. Thanks for ht reminder!
ReplyDeleteI've learned that too, it not only applies to your kids but to significant others as well or other people equally important.
ReplyDeleteSam about broke my heart with a comment he made one night. And it was then that I realized he just wanted more of me.
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Time! very true. and i agree with the reader that said 5 love languages book! it has transformed our house! children show love the way that they receive and interpret love...for example, Kirstyn's love language is gifts so she shows me she loves me by making me pictures, giving me some of her treasured items, etc. she feels love from me when i give back to her. even if it is something as simple as fixing her a glass of juice and then saying "i made this just for you." rather than saying "here's your juice". anyway, great book and good reminder that TIME is so important to them!!!
ReplyDeleteIt is so true. My kids (although they are little and don't know any better) would drop a toy in a heart beat if if meant I would sing/dance/play with them.
ReplyDeleteHow True!! T.I.M.E. is the most valuable thing we can give our kids. Awww. Yay reality tv!
ReplyDeleteKids don't really need clothes anyway. Get rid of them.
ReplyDelete[seriously though, time, family time, is the best thing, quality and direct attention]
You are absolutely right. That is something we've realized too and our family time is so much more meaningful because of it!
ReplyDeletePS. I don't accept paid ads either. United we stand.
Such a great..deep...post. The kids won't remember what new books we bought them, but they will remember that we read to them.
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PS Love the new look!
Aren't you just looking fabulous over here! Love it!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right... that is something I really need to work on with my kids. More time.
This is so true, and something easily forgotten.
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