Right now I have so many hangnails (why are they called that? It's not nail that's hangin.) I bite to get rid of the extra skin, but then they get snagged and more skin is hangin. I bite more, they bleed, they sting, but they still hang around causing me constant annoyance.
YOU. (No not YOU Internet readers)
You are the hangnail of my life. It took me several years to finally "bite" you out of my life, divorce you yet you keep getting snagged causing me more annoyance. I can't get rid of you.
I knew I'd never be able to clip you out completely seeing as we have a child together, but I never imagined that even though I clipped you you'd manage to snag yourself back in and that others would feel bad enough for you to let it happen.
It doesn't matter how many times I bite, no matter how many times I clip your existence to a minimum, there you are still hangin around.
Easter morning I called my stepdad to wish him a Hoppy Easter and to let him know that we would be at Easter brunch with the family. Hesitantly he says, "I invited Capt'n Cancel to brunch. I felt bad for him because he didn't have anywhere to go and didn't know if he was going to see the kids. I hope this is OK."
Damn hangnail, I thought I bit this off already.
Back in June, before the divorce was final I had a discussion with my Aunt. She had invited Capt'n Cancel to my cousin's graduation. I explained how uncomfortable I was with him being there, she apologized and said she really didn't mean to upset me.
*hangnail clipped*
At Thanksgiving, my Uncle let it be known that HE invited Capt'n Cancel to Christmas at their house. In shock I looked at my Aunt who knew my feelings and said, "why does this keep happening?"
*hangnail bitten off*
*Cue sad violins*
Poor Capt'n Cancel.
So good at making others feel so sorry for him, so easily manipulating others to get what he wants.
When? When will MY voice be heard? When? When will this family take my clippers and clip this sad sack of a useless man out of OUR family functions?
When? Oh WHEN will this hangnail be clipped and healed for good?
How many times will I have to say to the only family that I've been close to for the last 20 years of my life ENOUGH is ENOUGH?
So there we sat, MY FAMILY, me and him at Easter Brunch. I just can't bite off that hangnail and let it heal. It's constantly being snagged and reoccurring.
Oh I am frustrated for you.
ReplyDeleteWhen you say, no it really isn't ok. I guess we will have to stay home alone so that he can attend.
ReplyDeleteI'm with Jennifer on this one. Your family isn't going to "get it" until YOU guys stop showing up when they invite the hangnail.
ReplyDeleteTough love baby, tough freaking love.
ugh.
ReplyDeletemaybe tough love IS the answer.
I know kids are a blessing but thank GOD me and my STBE didn't have any.
we should be final in a month or so.
That is infuriating. Beyond infuriating.
ReplyDeleteEnough is definitely enough.
That is a tough one. You could play hardball and no longer attend events,but that isn't really fair to either of you. You could always start bringing Mr. FF with you, think that would get the point across?
ReplyDeleteI imagine how frustrating that can be... next time, bite the skin off yourself by saying NO, he can't go, I am uncomfortable, he is not welcomed. Period. If he doesn't respect that part of you and your life, at least your family or anyone else should. Period.
ReplyDeleteTime to laxate that human tapeworm out of your system once and for all.
Let your family know you won't be attending should he be there and let them know how much it hurts you and the kids. Srsly, no holds barred, soul baring words are needed. You are gonna have to be tough, but it's only fair. You get to keep your family..not the ex. I went through something similar, except my ex told me that my family actually liked HIM better than me. My family cut him off like a gangrenous appendage when I shared THAT little nugget of info with them;).
ReplyDeleteOh, I'm so sorry. I'm very fortunate that my entire family hates my ex. And the feeling is mutual. Needless to say, he won't be lobbying to chill with us anytime soon.
ReplyDeleteYou know, I sat here knawing on my own hangnail and trying not to get fat as I watched the big fattie debate on Dr. Phil...I realized....you are treating a hemorrhoid like a hangnail...it will never go away that way. No clipping, just medicate that thing away
ReplyDeleteYou are a better person then me because I would not go. Eventually everyone will understand if they keep inviting him you will not show up and they will stop inviting him. Try it and see what happens. It is tough but it will work!
ReplyDeleteI can totally see why you would be pissed.
ReplyDeleteHow awkward and annoying !
ReplyDeleteWelp, since Captn Cancel has regular visitation with his child, stop going to these family functions until they get it. They will miss you & hopefully get the message.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree that it looks like you are going to have to say NO, it's not ok and we will not be able to attend.
ReplyDeleteROFLMAO...VICKI...hemorroid YOU WIN BEST COMMENT OF THE DAY!!!
ReplyDeleteand you are soooo right.